First dates are always something super fun and something that gives you those special butterflies. And since you are searching and reading articles such as this one, I will dare to assume that somebody is getting quite nervous about her first date, am I right (wink)?
Jokes aside, the first impression really is important when it comes to relationships, so without further ado, here is the ultimate list of ways to make yours count.
It’s a no-brainer that you should try to look your best for the first date with a guy you think of as possible boyfriend material. However, that doesn’t mean you should try too hard and overdo it. The point is to emphasize your best features and hide your flaws. Men are visual types and trust me on this one, he will scan you from head to toe.
When it comes to clothes, you should pick it depending on the venue, but make sure you are wearing your most flattering pieces, and NEVER reveal too much.
When it comes to hair and makeup, make sure your hair is nice, neat and freshly washed, and your makeup simple and not too strong. Feel free to put on a little extra perfume, and always have a gum in your mouth just in case (wink).
Stick to positive topics
Let’s see, maybe you have some disagreements in terms of political views or religion, but that doesn’t mean you should shove your negative comments into his face. If you notice any form of disagreement, the best option would be to change topics. You’ve just met for God’s sake, there’s no need for arguments right away – you’ll have plenty of time for it once you get married and have kids LOL.
Even though it is desirable to share some of your personal or funny stories with him, don’t give away too much – there’s no need for him to know how you eat tomatoes with your hands like apples when you are drunk, or how once you accidentally pissed your bed, no matter how far your conversation has gone, or how much information he shared. Keep it classy, keep him wondering and always have in mind that mystery is BLOODY hot.
If you want your conversation to be good, you have to express your interest. However, note that you are not interviewing him, and that you are trying to get to know him better in terms of what kind of a person he is. In other words, avoid boring: What do you do for living questions, but rather focus on his hobbies, his favorite band, his funny childhood fears etc. Not only you will have more fun together, but you will also connect on a much deeper level.
Remember, everything is your choice, and you are the one who decides about the things that can and cannot happen You don’t have to accept every single suggestion of his. Sure, as a man, he will probably try to push his luck, but if you are not feeling comfortable, it is your job to politely and respectfully let him know. However, the general advice is that, even though you should always follow your feelings, you should still try not to sleep with him on the first date. It sounds cliché, but he really will respect you much more, not because of the act, but because of your abilities to stick to your boundaries.
Agree on an ideal date venue
Remember – he doesn’t know you. And if you want to have a good time, you shouldn’t leave all the planning to him. If you currently don’t have inspiration, check online for some interesting date ideas to help you with your decision. If you choose a place such as a restaurant, your date will go much smoother since you will have time to talk and you’ll be able to maintain a conversation, unlike bowling, bike riding or hiking date for example.
Believe it or not, but men can smell fake from miles away. They like women who are honest and open, honestly friendly and honestly interested. There is no need to fake anything, you are already here with him, so you must be at least somewhat interested.
Show but don’t show off
It is simple, share all those things that make you stand out in any way, but don’t brag about them. Be modest – that’s always a good idea.
Hold the liquor
Sure, you might need a drink or two to loosen up, after all, you are sitting with a guy you like on your first date. But, make sure you keep your drinking on the level where you’ve had just enough to unwind, and not so much that you come off as an alcoholic.
Do you have some more tips you would like to share? Let me know.