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How to Impress on the First Date

First dates are always something super fun and something that gives you those special butterflies. And since you are searching and reading articles such as this one, I will dare to assume that somebody is getting quite nervous about her first date, am I right (wink)?

Jokes aside, the first impression really is important when it comes to relationships, so without further ado, here is the ultimate list of ways to make yours count.

The look

It’s a no-brainer that you should try to look your best for the first date with a guy you think of as possible boyfriend material. However, that doesn’t mean you should try too hard and overdo it. The point is to emphasize your best features and hide your flaws. Men are visual types and trust me on this one, he will scan you from head to toe.

When it comes to clothes, you should pick it depending on the venue, but make sure you are wearing your most flattering pieces, and NEVER reveal too much.

When it comes to hair and makeup, make sure your hair is nice, neat and freshly washed, and your makeup simple and not too strong. Feel free to put on a little extra perfume, and always have a gum in your mouth just in case (wink).

Stick to positive topics

Let’s see, maybe you have some disagreements in terms of political views or religion, but that doesn’t mean you should shove your negative comments into his face. If you notice any form of disagreement, the best option would be to change topics. You’ve just met for God’s sake, there’s no need for arguments right away – you’ll have plenty of time for it once you get married and have kids LOL.

Personal details

Even though it is desirable to share some of your personal or funny stories with him, don’t give away too much – there’s no need for him to know how you eat tomatoes with your hands like apples when you are drunk, or how once you accidentally pissed your bed, no matter how far your conversation has gone, or how much information he shared. Keep it classy, keep him wondering and always have in mind that mystery is BLOODY hot.

Ask questions

If you want your conversation to be good, you have to express your interest. However, note that you are not interviewing him, and that you are trying to get to know him better in terms of what kind of a person he is. In other words, avoid boring: What do you do for living questions, but rather focus on his hobbies, his favorite band, his funny childhood fears etc. Not only you will have more fun together, but you will also connect on a much deeper level.

Set boundaries

Remember, everything is your choice, and you are the one who decides about the things that can and cannot happen You don’t have to accept every single suggestion of his. Sure, as a man, he will probably try to push his luck, but if you are not feeling comfortable, it is your job to politely and respectfully let him know. However, the general advice is that, even though you should always follow your feelings, you should still try not to sleep with him on the first date. It sounds cliché, but he really will respect you much more, not because of the act, but because of your abilities to stick to your boundaries.

Agree on an ideal date venue

Remember – he doesn’t know you. And if you want to have a good time, you shouldn’t leave all the planning to him. If you currently don’t have inspiration, check online for some interesting date ideas to help you with your decision. If you choose a place such as a restaurant, your date will go much smoother since you will have time to talk and you’ll be able to maintain a conversation, unlike bowling, bike riding or hiking date for example.

Be yourself

Believe it or not, but men can smell fake from miles away. They like women who are honest and open, honestly friendly and honestly interested. There is no need to fake anything, you are already here with him, so you must be at least somewhat interested.

Show but don’t show off

It is simple, share all those things that make you stand out in any way, but don’t brag about them. Be modest – that’s always a good idea.

Hold the liquor

Sure, you might need a drink or two to loosen up, after all, you are sitting with a guy you like on your first date. But, make sure you keep your drinking on the level where you’ve had just enough to unwind, and not so much that you come off as an alcoholic.

Do you have some more tips you would like to share? Let me know.

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What happens to you when you don’t date for a long time?

Staying single for a while can be a nice break from the hectic life of a couple, you get plenty of time to yourself and with that comes plenty of freedom. However, staying alone for too long can start having some effects on you that are not always the most desirable. It’s a bit more than not riding a bike for a while, and it can certainly require more than a few days to get back up to speed with the whole dating gig. Today we look at the things that happen to you when you stay by yourself for too long, and we offer possible fixes for you to get back on track as soon as possible.

1 – Socializing issues

Problem – Okay so just because you’ve been single doesn’t mean you’ve retreated into a cave altogether; you still have friends and people you see on a regular basis. However, the one thing that isn’t so good is when you approach a person you are attracted to. You might find that you stutter a bit more, or you simply lose your words and end up spewing some sort of word salad when you’re trying to flirt with someone. Let’s face it, you’ve lost a bit of that old magic it it’s hitting you by surprise. Who thought those once-acquired skills would be gone?

Solution – It’s okay to be nervous, if anything you will be giving that person a sign that you like them. These days people are so sure that confidence is the best thing ever, but knowing how to express your lack of confidence can work just as well. Just be honest with that person, tell then that you’re a little nervous because it’s been a while since you’ve talked to someone that you like and fancy. Just come up with your own version of it, you’ll just be telling the truth and honesty is a quality most desired by people when it comes to choosing a partner. In fact it might well give you a charm that is lacking in today’s over sexualized world.

2 – Sex, or the lack of it for so long

Problem – Speaking of over-sexualisation, it’s been a long time since you’ve done…you know… anything sexual with another person. Even if you have the past of a stallion but you stop for too long, you will unavoidably get that fear of being a bit too early when it comes to the act. Premature ejaculation isn’t a joke, and if it’s been a while since you’ve has some skin contact then you might have the fear that things will work out like they did for your first time. That is unless you’ve been practicing tantric sex with yourself all that time, but not many people do that, let’s be honest.

Solution – There is truth to what we are saying there, and your next performance might not be the best. You can try to delay ejaculation, there are different techniques and they do work. Also you can try adult dating, it sounds silly but you’re better off finding someone just to have sex with and tell them you might need a couple of times to get going. You’re not the only one with issues, and you’ll most likely find quite a few forgiving people a free fuck site like My Sex Hookups or other no-strings dating platforms. Just find yourself a friend with benefits, you’ll get that sexual confidence back in no time.

3 – Personal hygiene

Problem – This is the less pleasant aspect, not to put you off but the issue needs to be addressed. It’s bad, but not the end of the world, and certainly not atypical just to single people. You know that when you’re dating you make a personal effort to look better, and this includes looking after yourself. Your lips, your nasal hair, your health… all seem to take a step down when you’re alone for too long. It’s only fair, after all it’s not like you have to impress anyone. The thing is that over time, those showers you miss and those things you leave untreated can accumulate to a point where you feel a bit scared to get it sorted. In terms of dating, this means that you can sometimes lose a lot of confidence as you’re not your best self. Physically speaking, you might even feel a little broken, and that’s when you realise that you do need someone in your daily life to look after you.

Solution – It’s simple: get a piece of paper and make a list of those physical problems you might have developed. Write down about that that itch that won’t go, that spot you’ve been meaning to get checked, or that tooth that is giving you that weird breath. Then take an appointment with your General Practitioner and just talk to them about putting a plan together to attack all those problems. It will take time and will cost some money, but once you put the mechanics in place things should roll nicely. Before you even know it, you will be a brand new you that you feel so much better about.

We hope this article comes useful to some of you who have been in the single boat for a long time. We cannot cover all the aspects of prolonged singledom in the one article, but those are the main ones most people will face in that situation. The key thing is this: just take some time to look at yourself, make a note of your issues. You will find that it is just a matter of meeting one problem with a solution, it’s a simple step-by-step approach rather than having to face everything head-on. We wish you all the best with your dating life, may you find that person that is right for you!

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